Now it stands to reason that a person who is thinking about a concrete and worthwhile goal is going to reach it, because that’s what he’s thinking about – and we become what we think about. Conversely, the person who has no goal, who doesn’t know where he’s going, and whose thoughts must therefore be thoughts of confusion, anxiety, fear, and worry will become what he thinks about.Earl Nightingale
The following tips will help you reverse your negative thinking patterns in order to live a more positive and fulfilling life.
How to Deal with Your Inner Critic
“You will hear people talk about their problems so much at times but this is the wrong thing to do. You have to concentrate on the positives. Place your attention on the good things that happened throughout the day.”Tristan Jan Tizon
How often do you think negatively about yourself? How does that make you feel? Not good, right? Now is the time to let go of the plague of self-doubt. When you have a thought that is critical of what you are doing, examine it carefully and ask yourself if it is based on fact.
If you believe that it is true, ask yourself if the evidence supports it. You can’t believe the thought if you don’t do this. The second method you can use is to stop critical thoughts in their tracks and tell yourself not to engage in them anymore.
Know Your Triggers
“Some people have a positive attitude towards life only when all is well. However, when the going gets tough, their attitude changes instantly, and they become very negative or are consumed with self pity.”Catherine Pulsifer
You may have certain activities in your daily life that trigger negative emotions. Looking in the mirror and feeling that you aren’t good-looking enough is a common example. Whenever you find yourself triggered by seeing yourself in the mirror, take a break from doing that every day.
It is impossible to avoid looking in the mirror completely. You can, however, prepare for your triggers in advance by thinking positively and chanting mantras. By doing this, you will not think negative thoughts as soon as you begin the activity.
Keep a Journal
“Whether you believe or not, negative and positive thinking is infectious, as it tends to influence not only situations but also people around.”Lindsay J. Hallie
Writing about negative mindsets can also help combat them. There are times when you may not even realize the amount of negative emotions you are dealing with on any given day. You may think that these thoughts are serious, but on paper they might seem less so.
Make the decision to sit down with a journal every evening to write about what you have experienced during the day. You can also develop mantras or other positive countermeasures now. You will be able to better cope with negative thinking the next day, when you are away from your journal.
Your Surroundings Can Make a Difference
“If you visualize the things you don’t want, that’s what you will anchor in your brain. So think positive to anchor the positive. If you imagine confidence and good relations they will come.”David Valois
You should definitely take a break when you feel your thoughts have taken over your mind and you can’t seem to stop them. You don’t have to move or do anything crazy to make this happen.
Simply getting up and moving around can do the trick. Take a walk in nature, or arrange to see a friend. In both cases, your more rational side will be able to take over once you are distracted from negative thoughts.
When you cannot get away from your surroundings, simply changing from one activity to another can help. Find something enjoyable to do instead of dwelling on what’s frustrating you. You can start working meditation or exercise into your regular routine during this time as a way to release your frustrations.
“Do whatever you can possibly do to give yourself a feeling of accomplishment and watch your outlook on life change.”Bob Ravener
Negative thinking patterns can be difficult to break once they’ve been engrained in your mind. You’ll quickly find yourself on the road to positivity if you start creating positive mantras. Once you begin using them as a way to deal with your inner critic, you’ll be well on your way to positivity.
While you are trying to break out of the negative thinking trap, don’t forget to utilize the powers of journaling and changing your surroundings.