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How to Carry Yourself With Confidence

by A Hospidales
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Table of Contents

Why Is Body Language Significant?

An Analysis of Body Language

Body language: How it can improve your life

The Importance of Learning from Others

When Your Body Language Communicates Your Negative Emotions

How Your Body Language Can Boost Your Confidence

Keep Your Posture in Mind

Pose in a Powerful Way

Be Aware of Your Facial Expressions

Be Sure to Keep Eye Contact

Learn to Use Your Hands Well

Make Others Feel Comfortable

Avoid Fidgeting

Body Language Checklist for Confident People

Tips for Mastering Positive Body Language

Final Thoughts

Why Is Body Language Significant?

Body language and tone of voice – not words – are our most powerful assessment tools.

Christopher Voss

A person’s body language and facial expressions give him or her the ability to communicate effectively. It takes a lot of effort to figure out what other people are trying to say, and vice versa. In the same way your voice, tone, and words reveal how confident you are, so does your body language and facial expressions. An attitude of self-confidence not only demonstrates to others your sense of self-worth, but reinforces your own self-confidence.

In this guide, we explore how body language shows our emotions and thoughts. We will provide you with insight into what others are thinking about you by the way you move, look, and act. After that, we will give you our most valuable tips for improving your body language so that you exhibit a sense of self-assurance and empowerment in any situation.

The term body language refers to exactly what it is. It refers to your physical communication. In nonverbal communication, you use your hands, posture, movement, and facial expressions to communicate your emotions, intention, and meaning. Every part of your body participates in communication with others; it can either reveal or conceal your true state of mind.

Effective communication is 20% what you know and 80% how you feel about what you know.

Jim Rohn

Consider the message this person is sending to anyone who sees him: His hair looks unkempt, as if he hasn’t combed it. His eyebrows are raised, and he avoids eye contact with everyone. He appears to be slouching, and he seems to shuffle while he goes about his day. Could anything be more telling about this man? From his cues, what should you be able to infer about how he feels? Quite a bit!

It is difficult to find evidence he feels confident or self-assured. There is a good chance that he is anxious, disillusioned, or overwhelmed, or has zero motivation to do anything. By just watching him, one can discern these things. Moreover, he may not realize that he is divulging all this data to people he does not know.

Carry Yourself With Confidence

An Analysis of Body Language

The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t said.

Peter Drucker

There are many aspects to body language. It is when a variety of cues convey information of a delicate or not so delicate nature so that other people can make inferences. Body language consists of several components, and it is essential to understand each of them in order to effectively communicate your confidence.

Body language is largely determined by facial expressions. The majority of our time is spent looking at people’s faces, and they show us signs that indicate how they’re feeling. Various signs and signals, including microexpressions, are crucial components of body language.

The proxemics of body movement describes the way you move from place to place. Regardless of how you stand, gesture, lead, walk or sit, your body movements convey what you are thinking and feeling.

It is also pertinent to consider the way you adorn your body. The way you dress, carry yourself, and accessorize influences how others perceive you. Among the others described already, these cues are crucial.

Body language: How it can improve your life

Body language is more powerful than words.

Ricky Gervais

You may think changing your body language will only affect others, but it can actually alter your personality. Most people do not realize how displaying positive body language, such as engaging in eye contact and maintaining proper posture, can boost their self-esteem and contribute to their self-worth. 

Following are just a few of the many advantages you can derive from using positive body language.

The way you carry yourself can actually change the way you feel. As your nonverbal communication improves, you will feel better because it affects your brain and hormones. The use of positive body language stimulates testosterone production, leading to an increase in self-confidence. Males and females alike can experience this benefit.

We communicate all the time, even when we don’t realize it. Be aware of body language

Pat Summitt

You can also lower your cortisol levels by using positive body language, which releases cortisol when you are stressed. When your body language is positive, it gives the impression that you can handle anything, so you don’t have to be concerned about how things might turn out. When you feel less stressed, it is possible to reduce the negative effects of hormones such as cortisol on your overall health.

Positivity affects how people view you, making you more attractive and approachable in the eyes of others. Body language greatly influences how others perceive you, so displaying a positive attitude through your body language can help make them see you in a more positive light.

The human body is the best picture of the human soul.

Ludwig Wittgenstein

You convey your competence through your positive body language. Observing your nonverbal signals can give people an idea of whether or not you are qualified to do what you do.

Finally, confidence enhances your ability to communicate your feelings to others, also referred to as emotional intelligence. Positive body language is contagious, inviting others to feel the same way. In turn, this can improve your relationship with others.

How to Carry Yourself With Confidence:

The importance of learning from others

Body language is a very powerful tool. We had body language before we had speech, and apparently, 80% of what you understand in a conversation is read through the body, not the words.

Deborah Bull

A critical first step in figuring out how to use your body language to convey confidence is to understand how others communicate nonverbally. The act of decoding involves understanding how other people feel or think based on the information they provide. It is possible for you to learn a great deal from watching others, including strangers, through the course of the day.

I’ll give you an example. You may have noticed that a colleague at work is folding her arms in front of her during a meeting. She rarely smiles or shows any expression, frequently turning her body away from the person speaking to her. Throughout the meeting, she avoided eye contact with everyone. How do you feel about her?

The whole reason to study (and learn to control) body language is to have that support (rather than undercut) your message.

Nick Morgan

Something has clearly upset, angered, or enraged her. Granted, it may have nothing to do with the discussion, but this does not indicate that she is open to the topic at hand. If you have a close relationship with her, you may wish to ask her what’s bothering her. This will enable you to determine whether the suspicions you had about her are accurate.

On the other hand, when you notice a colleague sitting up straight, keeping eye contact with the speaker, a slight smile on her face, you know she is expressing interest in and focus on the meeting. Your colleague appears engaged and inclined to listen.


Observe those around you for a while.

Take note of how others are expressing themselves. What do people convey subtly through small but significant changes to their faces? How do their faces reflect their fears, worries, passions, and joys?

Do you think you could become more confident by observing those whom you think possess the most strength?

Watching others can help you decode their nonverbal cues. You can learn from them how to portray the confidence you feel inside but may not be showing to the world.

Using Body Language to Communicate Negative Emotions

“Get in touch with the way the other person feels. Feelings are 55% body language, 38% tone, and 7% words.”

You do many things that make others think you are upset, angry, angry, hurt, nervous, insecure, or concealing something. Start by avoiding these expressions, gestures, and postures to make others perceive you as genuine and confident:

  • When you are talking with someone, do not cover your face with your hands. Doing so gives the impression that you are nervous. Keep your face visible during the meeting or conversation.
  • People perceive you as anxious or shy when you don’t look them in the eye.
  • The way someone looks while talking can reveal a great deal of information about their emotions or motives. It is often perceived as untruthful or deceptive when someone shifts their gaze or avoids eye contact while talking. It is crucial to maintain eye contact to avoid misinterpretation.
  • When someone is holding back, they will display a specific sign. Biting your lips or folding your lips into your mouth is a common nervous tic when hiding something. In a way, this gesture indicates a sense of insecurity, indicating that you lack the confidence to say what is on your mind.
  • Frowning is not the only way to convey a sour mood to others. You are also viewed as unhappy if your face is neutral or doesn’t show any emotion. Women who exhibit this phenomenon are often referred to as having “resting bitch faces.”
  • Fidgeting may be an unintentional method of communicating. Although you may be doing it out of nervousness, other people will often take this to mean you’re impatient or want to be elsewhere.
  • When meeting someone for the first time, some people chin up unconsciously. Some people interpret this as conceit. If you aren’t feeling that way, you may want to keep your chin level with the ground.
  • Clenched teeth are another sign that others may misunderstand. Even though it may feel like you’re tensing up and tightening to deal with this energy, it may appear to others as anger or frustration.
  • When you slouch your shoulders, it often indicates a lack of confidence, which does not convey the message you have the self-confidence to deal with your problems. 

Enhance Your Self-Confidence by Using Your Body Language

Language is a more recent technology. Your body language, your eyes, your energy will come through to your audience before you even start speaking.

Peter Guber

If your body language is telling other people so much about how you are feeling, perhaps it is time for it to start conveying the confidence you are feeling or, at least, the confidence you want other people to THINK you feel.

When you are trying to make a good first impression, give an important presentation, interview for a job, or meet a date for the first time, you want others to think you are confident and sure of your ideas and self. So, knowing how to carry yourself can help you project the right image for carrying out your goals.

Even when you are not feeling 100 percent confident, looking the part to others will make them think you are, which will help to boost your confidence anyway. So, changing your body language can indeed change your mood and outlook, helping you feel more confident than you are. No matter what you are feeling inside, people will respond to your actions and expressions on the outside.

If language was given to men to conceal their thoughts, then gesture’s purpose was to disclose them.

John Napier

Those who are the most successful understand this and project confidence and sureness, no matter the situation. You can take your cues from them and use these simple body language changes to show your determination to others, no matter the situation.

Body language can convey much about how you are feeling to other people. As a result, it might be time for it to reflect your level of confidence, or at least your aspiration of being confident.

You want others to think you are confident and certain about your ideas and self when you’re making a first impression, giving a speech, interviewing for a job, or meeting a date for the first time. You can achieve your goals by projecting the right image if you know how to carry yourself.

Just remember, the language of gesture is more effective than the spoken word. Body language is very powerful. Bring the balance within you and project that balance.

Harbhajan Singh Yogi

No matter how insecure you feel, people will perceive you as confident if you appear that way, which in turn helps boost your self-confidence. In that case, altering your body language can actually alter both your mood and your outlook, boosting your confidence. Regardless of how you feel on the inside, what you do and how you express yourself on the outside will influence how others perceive you.

The most successful people recognize this and project confidence and certainty regardless of the situation. It is possible to adopt these simple adjustments in body language and use them to demonstrate your determination to others, regardless of the situation.

Keep Your Posture in Mind

There are four ways, and only four ways, in which we have contact with the world. We are evaluated and classified by these four contacts: what we do, how we look, what we say, and how we say it.

Dale Carnegie

Your posture is the first step to appearing confident. When you stand or sit confidently, you send a clear signal to other people that you are trustworthy and worth listening to. Keep your back straight when you are standing, and align your feet and legs with your shoulders. Put equal weight on both feet, with your shoulders back, with your head up. Imagine that a string is wrapped around your head, as if it is being pulled upwards.

Confidence and security are projected with this type of posture. By standing this way, people see you as approachable, which they appreciate. Whenever you stand tall, you either have your arms relaxed at your side or you are gesticulating to emphasize what you are saying.

Since an attitude is often expressed by our body language and by the looks on our faces, it can be contagious.

John C. Maxwell

Your posture still shows your confidence even if you’re sitting. Sit tall and with your rear facing the back of your chair. Your feet should be firmly planted on the ground. Relax your neck and keep it over your spine. You shouldn’t lean forward. Not only will you appear confident and composed, but you will also be sitting in a posture that is beneficial for your health. Furthermore, by maintaining this position, you keep your airways open, helping you to breathe properly.

Standing or sitting, you can display confidence by slightly raising your chin, keeping your shoulders down and slightly rolled back, and keeping your chest open. Such expressions emphasize your sense of self-worth and confidence.

Pose in a Powerful Way

The whole reason to study (and learn to control) body language is to have that support (rather than undercut) your message.

Nick Morgan

During formal events or at important meetings, you can use your stance and poses to convey your confidence and authority. 

When you stand with your hands over your hips or one hip, you can convey authority and trust. The gesture of extending your arms wide also shows that you are open to new ideas and speak your mind.

It shows you are serious when you put your hands on the desk or table and lean over it. You can also demonstrate your confidence in your ideas by leaning back in your chair and holding your hands behind your head.

Be Aware of Your Facial Expressions

Look in the mirror and get familiar with the appearance of your resting, regular face. People will usually see you this way most often. You might seem unapproachable or stern with your relaxed face. A natural turn in the corners of your mouth, or drooping eyes, may be one of the reasons for this. It may be a sign that you are coming across as negative if others ask if you are okay or upset all the time.

If you adopt the body language of a power player, it will greatly facilitate your ability to be a power player.

Nicky Morgan

In the end, the face you have can never be changed. Realizing how others may interpret you as a result of this can help you communicate a different meaning through your facial expressions. To avoid looking stern, you can relax the muscles of your face.

Additionally, you can practice lifting the corners of your mouth slightly to the side, which instantly alters your facial expression. You might appear crazed if you smile all the time, but even small adjustments around your mouth or eyes can alter people’s perception of you.

When people talk to you, you should also pay attention to how your face reacts. When confronted with things they don’t agree with, or with unknown ideas, some people have difficulty controlling their facial reactions.

People need realness, reality. People can sense when someone is being pretentious or fake. It’s because you feel it; you see it in someone’s body language.


During a meeting or interaction, ask a trusted friend to observe your facial expressions and report back later. Do you frown a lot when others speak? Is your brow furrowed when you feel stressed? Once you learn what to do, friendlier expressions are easier to learn.

Your attitude and intentions can be conveyed through smiling. Those around you will know that your smile is genuine and sincere if it crinkles the skin around your eyes. Genuinely smiling conveys sincerity and trustworthiness to those around you.

Be Sure to Keep Eye Contact

woman maintaining eye contact

In order to appear confident to others, you should make sure you keep eye contact with them. If you lose eye contact while talking to someone, it indicates that you are not at ease, submissive, or concealing something. It’s critical not to appear overbearing, so follow the lead of the other person, but don’t be the first one to glance away mid-sentence.

Every day, we communicate more with our energy, body language, face and eyes. That really is what communication is, and not so much words. And it’s rare that you get to explore that in a film.

Dakota Fanning

Eye contact can be intimidating, so try not to blink excessively, as this indicates nervousness. You may not even realize it when you are doing it. To find out if you are blinking a lot, ask a friend to watch you closely. In stressful situations, it’s also a good idea to record yourself to check whether your heart rate is normal.

Learn to Use Your Hands Well

You can convey a lot with your hands, and knowing how to use them properly can help you convey the right message. In general, gestures made with just one finger, especially jabbing or pointing, can appear aggressive or intimidating. In contrast, keeping your fingers together or using your hands open has the reverse effect. Palms facing up and open hands are almost universally perceived as positive and welcoming.

“What you do speaks so loud that I cannot hear what you say.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

You can use your hands to gesture and emphasize, however, when they’re not moving, you should keep them flat and still. Fidgeting indicates nervousness or uncertainty. You close yourself off and show your discomfort when you cross your arms.

Be careful about playing with your hands, rubbing your face, nibbling your nails, playing with your pen, or playing with items in your pockets. These behaviors indicate that you lack confidence in yourself. In the event that you exhibit any of these nervous tics, be mindful of them and refrain from doing them as much as possible.

During a conversation or while listening, nods and smiles let the other person know you are paying attention to them. This lets them know that you are listening to them and that you are engaging in the conversation. When others see you exhibiting these types of behaviours, they are more likely to trust you.

“Emotion always has its roots in the unconscious and manifests itself in the body.”

Irene Claremont de Castillejo

When you greet someone, the way you shake their hand says a lot about you. Your handshake should be firm and strong to convey your confidence. As you shake people’s hands, look them in the eye and do not linger.

Make Others Feel Comfortable

Try matching your body language with that of others if you are looking to make people feel more comfortable with you. Even though outright mimicry might be offensive to others, subtle mirroring of a person’s body language can convey that you are accepting of them and trying to understand them.

“I can’t just tell the guys I want the ball, I have to do it with my body language.”

LaMarcus Aldridge

The way you hold yourself matters not only when you are speaking, but also when listening as well. During a conversation, cues like nodding, slanting forward, looking at them and leaning forward make them feel engaged, giving them a sense of comfort.

Avoid Fidgeting

Nervous energy can manifest itself in many ways in nonverbal communication. Among the common fidgets are tapping, jingling coins, twirling your hair, or swaying. To appear confident, make sure you are calm and don’t fidget.

Wriggling detracts from your words and message, preoccupying others, and making it harder for them to listen or pay attention to you. Keep an eye out for the triggers that exacerbate your nervous habits and strive to avoid them.

“Eye rolling is one of the nonverbal signs that is pretty much always aggressive.”

Steve Watts

Body Language Checklist for Confident People

If you’ve been practicing your body language in anticipation of your next big presentation, interview, or party, here are some things you can check. These will help you ensure you have covered every angle.

  • Are you maintaining eye contact with your audience?
  • Do you stand or sit up straight?
  • Are you standing tall with your head held high?
  • Are your hands relaxed or are you using them to gesticulate rather than fidgeting?
  • Are you calm and in control?
  • Are you moving slowly and deliberately?
  • How firm is your handshake?
  • Does your face show positive emotions and a relaxed state?
  • Do you notice how you look when someone is speaking to you?
  • Do you use your open palm to show important information?
  • Are your clothes comfortable and make you feel confident?

Tips for Mastering Positive Body Language

In the same way that learning a new skill takes practice, mastering body language is no different. In order to convey confidence and authority in a speech or presentation, you must practice not only what you are going to say, but also how you stand, gesture, and show other nonverbal cues to demonstrate your expertise, confidence, and authority.

“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”

George Bernard Shaw

As you develop other, new behaviors, take advantage of everyday situations to practice. For example, sit at the dinner table with a relaxed posture and a relaxed face. Lunchtime with your friends allows you to focus on demonstrating that you are paying attention and making eye contact. Practice your non-verbal communication skills whenever you have an opportunity to interact with others.

Observing your body language via a video recording is another helpful tool. Recording yourself during a presentation or speech, while at work, or in other situations can help you learn more about the messages you are sending through your body language.

A trusted friend can also be a valuable source of feedback or advice. You may not see yourself the way other people do, so ask your family members and close friends what they think of certain habits you have. 

Final Thoughts

“When the eyes say one thing, and the tongue another, a practiced man relies on the language of the first.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Body language is composed of your facial expressions, posture, gestures, clothing, and other parts of your appearance and movements that tell others what is going on inside of you. Before you open your mouth, your body language can establish trust and trustworthiness. Therefore, if you want others to see your strength and confidence, you must master your body language.

Positivity in body language can not only convey confidence to others, it can also make you feel confident. If you want others to perceive you as confident, you need to learn how to use your body language and other nonverbal cues to your advantage.

Whatever the situation, learning to control and understand body language will help others get to know you and assist you in better communicating with your audience. It doesn’t matter if you are giving a speech, interviewing for a new job, going on a date, or just having social anxiety and want to interact more with people.









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Sharron Davis
Sharron Davis
1 month ago

I have struggled with eye contact since I was in my teens and I never understood why. I struggle with friends and family. The only one I can make eye contact with and keep it is my husband. I know people notice this too and it likely makes me look dishonest. It is one of the few things listed here that I have yet to correct! 

1 month ago

It took me years to realize the importance of my body language. I didn’t realize that what I was saying with my words is not nearly as important as what my body was saying. Once I started working on this, reading and getting better, my sales figures have gone considerably up, I feel confident and in charge and everyone I meet likes to talk to me and feels at ease in my presence. 

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